boogerwookiesugarcookie replied to your post:I usually say ”No need to apologize” in a calm tone. The person who apologizes doesn’t get yelled at for apologizing and so long as they don’t address the over apologizing I don’t out of courtesy. I found this is best with my friend but it dependsI don’t know if you saw the [Naja>is it appropriate>do it] flowchart, but if the person is getting weird about it and it’s frustrating you, I straight-up say ‘I forgive you’ and it often surprises them into stopping.
I did not see that chart! Is it still around? :D
I tend not to find over apologising frustrating, actually. It’s just a thing. It’s usually a response to anxiety or past issues with people being jerks, so I don’t mind it, it’s just another way of processing and communicating. My interest is finding the best ways to handle the communication so that the apologiser can feel safer in my response.
oh man i thought about this one for a while actually
for people who seem to be doing it in that anxious verbal tic sort of way, my default is a “you’re okay” while trying for that one like, affectionately-absent mum’s-only-half-listening tone, and without eye contact, though that last might come off different in someone who makes a lot of it usually.
it seesm reassuring, doesnt imply that they did anything tehy need to apologise for but is short enough it doesnt draw attention to anything, and the seeming kind of absent means it doesnt play too much into feeling bad for apologising stuff. idk it works ok for me, anyway.
its actually the same tone i use when i think someone’s working themselves up into a panic attack. i feel like it sounds patronising when im describing it but it doesnt seem to irl? or if it does nobodys told me and it seems effective, so.
i found it really difficult and a bit upsetting to have those interactions before i was able to find a way to get all of those things across at the same time because it was Me Fucking Up A Social Interaction and that was difficult. i was frustrated but mostly with myself for sucking at it ahaha
does anything actually happen in Western Australia or is that entire state a myth
100% reblogging this bc it reminded me of this conversation i had with beckah ages back
GOD I JUST WATCHED THE TRAILER FOR PETALS ON THE WIND AND AM FILLED WITH THE WEIRDEST AND MOST GENUINE GLEE
GOD THOSE BOOKS ARE A TRIP
last night a guy said to me “you are very, very pretty” and i said “i know” and he said like patronisingly “you KNOW?” and i said “you think you’re the first person to ever compliment me?” and he didn’t know where to go from there
My favorite Avengers fics are the ones that feature Jane in the role of scientist-everyone-doubted-and-mocked-but-uh-oh-she-was-right-about-literally-everything-don’t-you-feel-stupid-now-suck-it-losers.
Just give me 500k words of Jane going to different conferences and saying “I told you so” in a hundred different ways while older maler scientists bow their head in shame.
WHATS THE HUMAN TORCHS FAVORITE KIND OF WEAPON i scream as the building collapses around us. you begin to cry. FIREARMS i yell but there is no response
i don’t even know what happened man.
Snowpiercer, OC, Yona, Timmy, 12k
Mohammed lowered his hands from his ears. “Was that what I think it was?” he said hoarsely, and Muhamed stared back at him for a blank moment, his ears still ringing, before he pushed himself up to check. The ice bit at his face, but it was. It absolutely was.
"Fucking finally," he said, and reached for his snowshoes. "Come on, let’s go see if any of those train-riding fuckers made it."
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i am barely halfway through and this is WRECKING ME.
It seems like SJK doesn't comprehend that sexual assault = rape
i think you and seebs are right about that.
sorry, i needed to get that out of my system. i feel better now. these fucking idiot kids.
Out of interest, is this a regional difference I’ve never come across before?
In an Australian context sexual assault is a catch-all term for sexual offenses, and its general non-legal use is almost universally to refer to indecent assault.